Is self-care different from being selfish or self-indulgent? Is it the same as caring for your soul? And what does self-care look like in light of following Jesus, who called his followers to deny themselves?
A few years ago, I wrote “My 22 Best Practices in 22 Years of Pastoral Ministry,” and each year since then I’ve added another best practice. Now in honour of my 25 years of pastoral ministry, I add one more: Know when it’s time to say good-bye.
Leaders have to know who they are. . . . When everything else crumbles and when you are in situations of disillusionment, when plans haven’t worked out, when colleagues have disappointed you, there’ll come those times when you say, “Why am I doing this?” At that point, what is needed is a deep and abiding sense of God’s call.
When I first accepted the call to serve as an interim pastor, I had no specific pastoral training or experience. I was a writer and college instructor, had the equivalent of a master’s degree in theological studies, some practical experience as a speaker and worship leader–but mainly I had lots of questions.
“It may be legal, but the ethics stink!”
I winced at my friend’s comment about a Christian organization’s poor employment practices, but I knew he was right.
That’s why I read and blogged about Richard Kyte’s Ethical Business–because ethical decision-making doesn’t happen automatically even for those who claim to be Christian.
Toxic Skill (noun)
something that you do well, but brings no life or energy;
a skill that has overstepped its intended bounds.
I had never heard of a toxic skill until I read Your Vocational Credo by Deborah Koehn Loyd (InterVarsity Press, 2015), and I was immediately intrigued both by her term and the way she described it.
If you look at your own denomination’s classified ads or at pastor search sites online, you’ll see a wide range